Becoming More of Yourself

We have all been peppered with quotes the likes of, “Be you, everyone else is taken,” and “There’s no one in the world exactly like you,” and so on. And, a question you might have asked yourself along your journey is, “Who am I?”

You are a crystal encased in stone and debris. The work is not to find yourself by reaching outward and creating an identity, but to chip, brush, and wash away all that is not you, to reveal the subtle impulses from your soul that reveal you.

From the first moment we enter this world, we are exposed to conditioning and an education, both overtly and via osmosis and exposure. There’s the guardian(s) who raised you, the schools, the advertising, and all the messages that reach you in a million and one ways. There’s also the collective unconscious and conscious energy fields of our society, culture, and world that have their own messages and pressures.

You’re told who you should be, what you should do and have, what you should look like, the path you should take, and also, usually, told you are not okay in one way or another. Whether it is that you currently are not okay or that you will not be okay in the future, or usually both, the world quickly becomes an incredibly stressful place and experience full of all that you are not and all that you need to be.

As time goes by, and more and more debris clouds that crystal that is you, you become buried and the light and joy can’t flow or shine through you.

On top of this, part of the messaging is that you must find yourself and you must make something of your life in order to be happy. So off you go, searching for yourself as if you are somewhere “out there” and trying to collect things along the way to build a life that will make you happy.

I am not saying that meeting someone and choosing to enter a partnership or having children or creating a business that generates income or deriving your identity through any of these or other external things is wrong. But I am saying that some people will notice that they never feel quite right and settled. Their sense of reality and their life is predicated upon external circumstances. That may be totally acceptable and fine for them, but what would happen if all of these things disappeared?

If you imagine that everything in your world – your job, your partner, your children, your friends, your looks, your health, your possessions – ALL disappeared, who would you be?

Try not to get side tracked by the grief of losing these things, but focus on your identity. What is it rooted in? What is your experience of being alone in a room whose walls are made of only light and it is just you, sitting there, alone with yourself. What happens inside of you? Can you feel just you? Your energy, your soul, your essence? Are you okay? Do you feel joy in your heart?

This is a starting point of contemplation to begin to notice if your identity is based on the external, material world and all it’s webs of illusion and confusion, or if you are connected with your heart center and another reality beyond the time, space, and material dimensions of this reality. This point of focus can begin to allow what is not you to be noticed, abandoned, grieved, and then replaced with either nothing or more of you.

For example, how you are supposed to look. There is so much madness in this reality surrounding appearance! Body shape, size, your skin, how your teeth should look, and on and on and on. This body is a vehicle. Imagine you are a blob being on another planet and you look into our world at our physical form, and you think to yourself, “wow, they look different.” You have no predisposition for how humans should or should not look, because you are a blob being and you have not seen human beings before. Do you think that you, as a blob being, would have a rule about what human beings should or should not look like? No, you would not. This is a human made conception and it can be a lethal one. So many people have their focus completely overtaken, at worst, or their focus pulled by constant bombardment of messages about how they should look, when it really does not matter except for the experience you are meant to have on your journey towards realizing who you really are and that it doesn’t matter, after all.

This is just one example. People are getting completely lost in their physical looks and what it means – how they are not attractive enough and so they cannot be truly happy because their “attractiveness” will never allow them to experience and have all that they deserve. This is some of the dirt you, the crystal is trapped under.

Can you imagine delighting in your body and how you look and enjoying it all? Having joy poor through you, regardless? This can seem like an impossibility for some people.

Start where you are, and begin to notice the “rules” and conditioning that bind you. Begin to let them go and redefine who you truly are. You are a crystal, pure, shining, unadulterated, and magical. No one is excluded.